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dealing with a "disobedient wife," a Muslim man has a number of options.
First, he should re-
mind her of "the importance of following the instructions of the husband
in Islam". If that doesn’t work, he can "leave the wife’s bed". Finally,
he may "beat" her, though it must be without "hurting, breaking a bone,
leaving blue or black marks on the body and avoiding hitting the face, at
any cost".
Such appalling recommendations, drawn from the book,
Woman in the Shade of Islam, by Saudi scholar, Abdul Rahman al-Sheha,
are inspired by as authoritative a source as any Muslim could hope to
find: a literal reading of the 34th verse of the fourth chapter of the
Koran: An-Nisa, or Women. "[A]nd (as to) those on whose part you fear
desertion, admonish them and leave them alone in the sleeping-places and
beat them," reads one widely accepted translation.
The notion of using physical punishment as "disciplinary
action", as Sheha suggests, especially for "controlling or mastering
women" or others who "enjoy being beaten", is common throughout the Muslim
world. Indeed, I first encountered Sheha’s work at my Morgantown mosque
where a Muslim student group handed it out to male worshippers after
Friday prayers one day a few years ago.
Verse 4:34 retains a strong following, even among many who
say that women must be treated as equals under Islam. Indeed, Muslim
scholars and leaders have long been doing what I call "the 4:34 dance" –
they reject outright violence against women but accept a level of
aggression that fits contemporary definitions of domestic violence.
Western leaders, including British Prime Minister Tony
Blair and Italian Prime Minister Romano Prodi, have recently focused on
Muslim women’s veils as an obstacle to integration in the West. But to me
it is 4:34 that poses the much deeper challenge of integration. How the
Muslim world interprets this passage will reveal whether Islam can be
compatible with life in the 21st century. As Hadayai Majeed, an African
American Muslim who had opened a shelter in Atlanta to serve Muslim women,
put it, "If it’s okay for me to be a savage in my home, it’s okay for me
to be a savage in the world."
Not long after I picked up the free Saudi book, Mahmoud
Shalash, an imam from Lexington, Kentucky, stood at the pulpit of my
mosque and offered marital advice to the 100 or so men sitting before him.
He repeated the three-step plan with "beat them" as his final suggestion.
Upstairs, in the women’s balcony, sat a Muslim friend who had recently
left her husband, who she said had abused her; her spouse sat among the
men in the main hall.
At the sermon’s end, I approached Shalash. "This is
America," I protested. "How can you tell men to beat their wives?"
"They should beat them lightly," he explained. "It’s in
the Koran."
He was doing the dance.
Born into a conservative Muslim family that emigrated from
Hyderabad, India, to West Virginia, I have seen many female relatives in
India cloak themselves head to toe in black burkhas and abandon their
education and careers for marriage. But the Islam I knew was a gentle one.
I was never taught that a man could – or should – physically discipline
his wife. Abusing anyone, I was told, violated Islamic tenets against
zulm, or cruelty. My family adhered to the ninth chapter of the Koran,
which says that men and women "are friends and protectors of one another".
However, the kidnapping and killing of my friend and
colleague Daniel Pearl in 2002 forced me to confront the link between
literalist interpretations of the Koran that sanction violence in the
world and those that sanction violence against women. For critics of
Islam, 4:34 is the smoking gun that proves that Islam is misogynistic and
intrinsically violent. Read literally, it is as troubling as Koranic
verses such as At-Tauba ("The Repentance") 9:5, which states that Muslims
should "slay the pagans wherever ye find them" or Al-Mâ’idah ("The Table
Spread with Food") 5:51, which reads, "Take not the Jews and Christians as
friends".
Although Islamic historians agree that the Prophet
Muhammad never hit a woman, it is also clear that Muslim communities face
a domestic violence problem. A 2003 study of 216 Pakistani women found
that 97 per cent had experienced such abuse. Almost half of them reported
being victims of non-consensual sex. Earlier this year the state-run
General Union of Syrian Women released a report showing that one in four
married Syrian women is the victim of domestic violence.
Much of the problem is the 4:34 dance, which encourages
this violence while producing interpretations that range from comical to
shocking. A Muslim man in upstate New York, for instance, told his wife
that the Koran allowed him to beat her with a "wet noodle". The host of a
Saudi TV show displayed a pool cue as a disciplinary tool.
Modern debates over 4:34 inevitably hark back to a still
widely used 1930 translation of the Koran by British Muslim Marmaduke
Pickthall, who determined the verse to mean that, as a last resort, men
can "scourge" their wives. A 1934 translation of the Koran by Indian
Muslim scholar A. Yusuf Ali inserted a parenthetical qualifier: Men could
"Beat them (lightly)".
By the 1970s, Saudi Arabia, with its ultra-traditionalist
Wahhabi ideology, was providing the translations. Fuelled by oil money,
the kingdom sent its Korans to mosques and religious schools worldwide. A
Koran available at my local mosque, published in 1985 by the Saudi
government, adds yet another qualifier: "Beat them (lightly, if it is
useful)".
Today, the Islamic Society of North America and popular
Muslim Internet mailing lists such as SisNet and IslamIstheTruth rely on
an analysis from Gender Equity in Islam, a 1995 book by Jamal
Badawi, director of the Islamic Information Foundation in Canada. Badawi
tries to take a stand against domestic violence but like others doing the
4:34 dance he leaves room for physical discipline. If a wife "persists in
deliberate mistreatment and expresses contempt of her husband and
disregard for her marital obligations" the husband "may resort to another
measure that may save the marriage… more accurately described as a gentle
tap on the body," he writes. "[B]ut never on the face," he adds, "making
it more of a symbolic measure than a punitive one."
As long as the beating of women is acceptable in Islam,
the problem of suicide bombers, jihadists and others who espouse violence
will not go away; to me, they form part of a continuum. When 4:34 came
into being in the 7th century, its pronouncements toward women were
revolutionary, given that women were considered little more than chattel
at the time. But 1,400 years later, the world is a different place and so
too must our interpretations be different, retaining the progressive
spirit of that verse.
Domestic violence is prevalent today in non-Muslim
communities as well but the apparent religious sanction in Islam makes the
challenge especially difficult. Some people seem to understand this and
are beginning to push back against the traditionalists. However, their
efforts are concentrated in the West and their impact remains small.
In his recent book, No god but God, Reza Aslan, an
Islam scholar at the University of Southern California, dared to assert
that "misogynistic interpretation" has dogged 4:34 because Koranic
commentary "has been the exclusive domain of Muslim men". An Iranian
American scholar recently published a new 4:34 translation stating that
the "beating" step means "go to bed with them (when they are willing)".
Meanwhile, shelters created for Muslim women in Chicago
and New York have begun to preach zero tolerance regarding the
"disciplining" of women – a position that should be universal by now. And
some Muslim men appear to grasp the gravity of this issue. In northern
Virginia, for instance, an imam organised a group called Muslim Men
Against Domestic Violence – though it still endorses the "tapping" of a
wife as a "friendly" reminder, an organiser said.
Yet even these small advances, if we can call them such,
face an uphill battle against the Saudi oil money propagating literalist
interpretations of the Koran here in the United States and worldwide.
Last October I listened to an online audio sermon by an
American Muslim preacher, Sheik Yusuf Estes, who was scheduled to speak at
West Virginia University as a guest of the Muslim Student Association. He
soon moved to the subject of disobedient wives and his recommendations
mirrored the literal reading of 4:34. First, "tell them". Second, "leave
the bed". Finally: "Roll up a newspaper and give her a crack. Or take a
yardstick, something like this, and you can hit". When I telephoned Estes
later to ask about the sermon, he said that he had been trying to limit
how and when men could hit their wives. He realised that he had to revisit
the issue, he told me, when some Canadian Muslim men asked him if they
could use the Sunday newspaper to give their wives "a crack".
Yet even those doing the 4:34 dance seem to realise that
there’s a problem. When I went back to listen to the audio clip later, the
offensive language had been removed. And when I asked Estes if he had ever
rolled up a newspaper to give his own wife a crack, he responded without
hesitation.
"I’m married to a woman from Texas," he said. "Do you know
what she would do to me?" n
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